The End of Conflict

Recently, I have noticed that no matter where I go, there is a conflict within everybody. Whether inner or outer, many people are struggling to resolve some kind of conflict in their lives. They are seeking to eliminate their problems so they can be happy. No matter if they choose outside help, or self-help, the fact remains that their is an imbalance within the hearts of millions. The pressure to succeed and maintain a certain lifestyle, to survive amidst mediocrity and abuse, or to create a life of dreams has led to more diseases and illnesses within many souls in this world.

Can you end the conflict that arises from within and without? How can you move beyond doubt and fear in a world that puts so much pressure on us? How can you resolve the conflicts between you and your family, friends, and co-workers? I've spoken with many people who have said they have tried many things to resolve their situations and yet nothing happens. I'v met many people who refuse to look at another's point of view simply because they believe they are right. Then there are many people who do not care about the other person's feelings and reject their desire for peace and forgiveness simply because they are not ready for resolution.

The end to conflict begins within. It begins with examining your own beliefs and ideas about what you want and what you are. For example, I met a young man who moved to Santa Fe to be with his mother because he believed that was his responsibility to take care of her. However, he felt disconnected and bored with the community and wanted to leave for the fast-pace life on the East Coast. Yet, he was torned between moving back to the fast life of the Big City and having his own place in the Little City. So how could he end the conflict within himself? What decision could he make that gave him fulfillment?

First, it is important to decide what is more important. He loves the idea of having his own place more than anything else. He values his independence. Would he have the same kind of independence in the Big City? No. He loves the fast life of The Big City. He values excitement. Would he have the same kind of excitement in the Little City? No. So what is more important? Being independent or looking for excitement? Independent. He like the idea of having his own place. The Big City was never going to lose its excitement and he could always choose to travel back and forth to the Big City.

So, here's a quick way to end conflict: Choose what's more important. If you are not getting along with someone, trying to make a decision, look at what's important. Then make a list of the most important to least important. Then you will make your decisions based on what you believe and value as important. It's that simple! If you value respect, and get into an argument with a friend, family, co-worker, whatever the conflict, respect will be your primary choice.

Okay, now go make peace with yourself and the world!